I want to preface: I'm in the same boat as you, overcoming a sexual disorder. It's objectively grave-matter, the one I got. Also objectively speaking, I can see this cold turkey as being the death of me, no joke. Cutting off this hand which offends has not stopped bleeding.
It's a personal choice I've made. There's a story to it. Perhaps I've been imprudent & sinful about many other things - I probably was shortsighted, made errors in judgement, but hindsight is 20/20. So it's only a possibility for others, not necessary at all.
With that said, would you be to be a martyr should it come to it?
For many years I used the same liberal ethics of consent to justify daily porn consumption, masturbation, excessive fantasizing, and maintaining many ‘platonic’ friendships with women, including former lovers all over the continued objections of my wife. It took me decades to understand that what I did privately in my head was actually doing harm. Kudos to you for learning faster than I did. You’re going to be a fantastic husband and father. Your repentance is inspirational.
Very happy to read this. Trying to read your other posts as well. I very much agree. You can't just "give in a little bit" and expect not to be in bondage to it completely. You don't flirt around with sin.
As a Christian, as a pastor, I certainly "Amen" what you say about how God is the one who can give us the strength and healing to recover from this. That said, I've seen that even non-Christians can choose a path of not indulging autogynephilia and pursue their love of their wife instead and experience significant change. Of course, they still are lost in the meaning of life and not reconciled to God. But it's possible for them to still learn to resist giving in to their autogynephilia.
Amen
We all must bear the cross given to us
I want to preface: I'm in the same boat as you, overcoming a sexual disorder. It's objectively grave-matter, the one I got. Also objectively speaking, I can see this cold turkey as being the death of me, no joke. Cutting off this hand which offends has not stopped bleeding.
It's a personal choice I've made. There's a story to it. Perhaps I've been imprudent & sinful about many other things - I probably was shortsighted, made errors in judgement, but hindsight is 20/20. So it's only a possibility for others, not necessary at all.
With that said, would you be to be a martyr should it come to it?
For many years I used the same liberal ethics of consent to justify daily porn consumption, masturbation, excessive fantasizing, and maintaining many ‘platonic’ friendships with women, including former lovers all over the continued objections of my wife. It took me decades to understand that what I did privately in my head was actually doing harm. Kudos to you for learning faster than I did. You’re going to be a fantastic husband and father. Your repentance is inspirational.
Very happy to read this. Trying to read your other posts as well. I very much agree. You can't just "give in a little bit" and expect not to be in bondage to it completely. You don't flirt around with sin.
As a Christian, as a pastor, I certainly "Amen" what you say about how God is the one who can give us the strength and healing to recover from this. That said, I've seen that even non-Christians can choose a path of not indulging autogynephilia and pursue their love of their wife instead and experience significant change. Of course, they still are lost in the meaning of life and not reconciled to God. But it's possible for them to still learn to resist giving in to their autogynephilia.
I am equally against the "integration" that is talked about on Reddit and other places. But at our ministry we offer a different view of integration - https://healingfromcrossdressing.org/integration-and-contentment/
It sounds like there's an addictive element --similarly offering a faux consolation
Its over buddy boyos