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Thoughtful piece, thanks. Of course everyone navigates their own story but i feel it's incredibly useful to have narratives that arent the basic stick-of-rock, born in the wrong body story which often seems to be the only one thats socially accepted. A good read.

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You might think your "analysis" of autogynephilia is insightful or deep or truthful but your comment is indicative of the fact that you have little to no actual understanding of the nature of the phenomenon and, accordingly, your life "advice" is completely useless.

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"This isn’t complicated, interesting, or important."

Interesting enough for you to read my entire essay and spend several minutes typing out multiple comments.

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You claim to care about keeping AGPs from causing social trouble but simultaneously claim it's not important to understand the psychological nature of AGP. If you honestly think "just put your head down and work" is a psychologically plausible strategy or tactic for getting AGPs to behave better or magically cure their condition you are woefully ignorant because AGPs in masculine careers "putting in the work" are exactly those who are most likely to create trans widows. Work will not solve this. Things are way more complicated than you are suggesting, although I am not opposed to the spirit of your suggestion, which has a kernel of truth.

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"You didn't transition or detransition because none of that is real."

So taking hormones wasn't real?

Legally changing my name wasn't real?

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"That’s what trannies do"

I thought there's no such thing as "trans"?

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"there's no such thing as "trans" in that there is no special category for people who refuse to accept the reality of their sexed body."

This is contradictory because you just defined the very category you say doesn't exist: the subgroup of people who refuse to accept the reality of their sexed body.

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